Category Archives: Quality of life

My 5 Tips on Managing Overwhelm

1. Monitor your feelings of overwhelm. With practice you will be able to recognize smaller and smaller amounts of an overwhelmed feeling. Practice noticing how intense your feeling of overwhelm can get. How quickly do you escalate to this maximum intensity? Notice at what level of intensity the feelings of overwhelm start to become particularly …

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My 5 Tips on Distinguishing Pity from Compassion

Both compassion and pity recognize and validate someone’s (or your own) distress, pain, difficulties. These initial similarities lead many people to consider pity and compassion to be one and the same. In an effort to steer clear of pity, people inadvertently deny themselves compassion, which is both a healing and propelling emotion. 1. After recognizing …

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5 Tips on Building a New Habit

1. Be specific and clear. What is the exact habit/behavior that you want to incorporate into your life? Specific habits/behaviors that are clearly defined are much easier to add to your life. For example, wanting to increase your level of health is well and good but it is a rather vague idea, while wanting to …

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To Cope with Comparisons

1. If comparing your situation to other situations (or people) that are worse, harder, more difficult, etc… leads to increased gratitude or appreciation then this is a healthy, beneficial mode of comparison. 2. If however, this comparison is being used to minimize the difficulties, hardship, or pain of your situation then this is not a …

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My 5 Tips on Romantic Love

These tips are based on the assumption that you are in an emotionally healthy and abuse free relationship. If your relationship is not healthy or has abusive elements, I encourage you to reach out to a professional for guidance in navigating your relationship. 1. Know that the passion, intensity, zest and absolute sheer awesomeness of …

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My 5 Tips on Romantic Love

These tips are based on the assumption that you are in an emotionally healthy and abuse free relationship. If your relationship is not healthy or has abusive elements, I encourage you to reach out to a professional for guidance in navigating your relationship. 1. Know that the passion, intensity, zest and absolute sheer awesomeness of …

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5 Tips on New Years Resolutions

Love them or avoid them, the annual ritual of New Year’s Resolutions is here; so, just a few tips on resolutions worthy to consider making. 1. Practice increasing the joy, laughter and gratitude in your life. When possible, when authentic, genuine and true spend a few moments cataloging some of things you can be grateful …

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My five tips for treating yourself in a more loving way

1. Warmth & Limits – Ideal parenting is a combination of high warmth and high guidance, limits, boundaries…. Even though you are an adult that does not mean that this combination of warmth and limits is not necessary. Developing a more loving relationship with yourself can start by assessing if you have a tendency to …

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My five tips on being in motion

1. Throw out the word ‘exercise’. The word exercise is one loaded term – it implies that work, pain, sweat as well as tears must be involved and for many exercise is intertwined with issues around weight, value, body image, self esteem, failure, lost success, food, etc…. 2. Adopt the word ‘motion’. Rather than trying …

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5 Tips on Jealousy

1. Jealousy is often regarded as being intertwined with greed, giving it a reputation of only leading to negative things. It is common for jealousy to be portrayed as having the power to bend and twist you into a lesser version of yourself – to turn you into a shriveled soul. Yet, this is only …

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